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September 29, 2005


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Do you not have a blowtorch handy? That solves sooooo many issues I have with people.

Let me know which method you ultimately choose, as I'll likely be making the same choice in around 15 years. Personally, I like A.


I've found that cleaning my gun when the prospective BF comes over worked just fine.
Yelling "Just hide the body with the rest of them!" to someone in the next room, when picking up the phone after he calls, works pretty well, too...


I'm going with option number one! No need to put others in jeopardy further down the line!


D. None of the above.

The flowers are beautiful. "If I could be a be born in your eye, live on your cheek, and die on your lips." Isn't it sad that this is considered a pickup line.

Keeping in mind that he could be a very nice guy and a genuine sweetheart; he is wasting his efforts (or affection if sincere).

"Someone" should tell him, "Thank you, but she's just not that into him." Long term it's a WIN-WIN.


Um. While it's a sweet gesture, for an 'over-18' to deliver flowers to her school...I choose A. Evil boys.


Or... she could look him from head to toe to head and say, "I don't think so." Worked for me. ;-)


I'd go with "C". Also study closely at dinner that he doesn't actually look like he might be related to anyone else you invite!


I'm so glad that my girl is still a teeny tiny chitlin!

Old Horsetail Snake

Contrary to belief, the best pickup line is not "What's your line?" It's "What's your signal?"


I would go with Rick to the store to meet him face to face and mention how surprised you are that he sent the flowers to a 17 year old. Just make sure he knows you and Rick have a good long look at him. This would give him a warning without making Sam feel awkard around him as she is working with him. It is a touchy situation that he did not send the flowers to her house. Maybe he wanted her to feel good by impressing her friends. On the other hand, my husband was 22 when he met his 16 year old wife to be.(We married when I was 21) Tony Suprano charges too much so leave him out of it, but mention he is your brother. lol

Lucy Stern

Why did he deliver the flowers to school instead of at home? Looks to me like he is trying to impress more than just your daughter. He could have just given her a small arrangement like the ones your get at the grocery store for his first offering. This guy could be the obsessive type. Tell your daughter not to go on a date with him until she knows him a little better. You might pick her up from work one day and just "happen" to be in the right place at the right time to meet him and give him a good looking over. Who knows he could be a really nice guy or he could not be. Hard to tell. Good luck!

Florida Cracker

In his defense, he may have known her school, but not her home address....but who really cares?
He's older...she's still young.
He's a reptile...she's still young.
He's out of the school scene...she's still young and in the school scene.
He's a reptile...wait, I already said that, but it bears repeating.

Jamie Dawn

C is the best choice. I'll bring a woodchipper, and we can make him the chum.
Funny post!
Your daughter will be able to let him down gently without the need to use option C. But, keep it on the table.

test for michael

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Dammm Maine, I forgot all about the blowtorch! excellent idea. It now becomes option B.

I was glad to see you all think just like me. All of you cracked me up. Now Mike, your comment.. geez, we need to corrupt you a little more! ;) j/k..

Lucy and Mom, going to the store is exactly what I plan to do. She is not working this week because of exams, but I plan to make a trip there on Saturday and make my presence known. I want to get a good look at this reptile (he is a reptile, Crackers), and find out what's up.

Even if he is a nice guy, I still plan to keep the blow torch handy and subject him to periodic questionaires involving random wires and specialized detector tests known only to underground operatives.


There is a youung man at college who is showing interest in my oldest daughter. He is 27 and looks 20. She is 18. She is very mature but also very innocent in the ways of the world. I will not forbid the budding relationship. She is too old for that. You know -she could have gone away to college and us never know who she is with. We do have some rules and she understands the need. She is never to get into the car with him. There will be no real dating until he has come to the house and Dad has laid down the law. She told us he was a bit uncomfortable about coming to the house. We said if he respects you he will come or he will lose interest in you and move on. They have only had library study dates at this point. We won't approve of anything else. We both have met this young man in passing but not in a way to have a real conversation. I am betting he will move on soon knowing she has parents that won't put up with BS.


When my daughter was 15, she worked for a local fast-food restaurant. The manager, who was 23, made passes at her and she was smitten. We told her he could come to the house and visit with her, but we would never let her go out with him in a car. He came to the house once only, and after we told him the rules, he never showed his face again. Test this guy's mettle. Set up some rules and see what happens. Then go with Plan C.


Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:

O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Ahh, Shakespeare. Fair enough to make your presence known ... and fair enough to want to protect your daughter. But in matters of the heart, sometimes these damn young people seem to have minds of their own ...

I always used a gentle touch when dancing around my daughters' love lives.


It sounds as if you can trust your daughter's judgement on this one. She sounds like a very mature 17 year old.

My daughters are 5 and 8...when i get to this...option A would be a good one ;)


Kenju and Angie, thanks for sharing your experiences. I like your rules as well!

She has said that she doesn't want to date him, but I worry that he may be using the large bouquet of flowers to impress her into going out with him anyway. I'll check him out, regardless.

Nils, LOL.. you crack me up. And I love Shakespeare but even he is no match for love where there is no love to be had! ;)

Idgie, Interstellar and Staircase.. your time is coming! lol

I'll update again when I meet this guy.


Of course, he may be like millions of guys out there. Never had a girlfriend or a date in his life. One young woman shows him a little bit of courtesy and interest and he desperately imagines more to it than is there. Hoping to reinforce what doesn't really exist, and lacking social skills and judgment, he overdoes it with the flowers. Yes, he may be a predatory creep, but he may instead be one of those pathetic losers who are reliable, hardworking, steadfast, and who make good husbands in the end. How do I know this? I was one of those pathetic losers! I've been married 25+ years now.

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