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August 22, 2006

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InterstellarLass

That is just awful! My thought is none of them wanted to get busted. Maybe if we do nothing and she's OK, no one will ever know. Surely she won't die.

I worry that 18 years old shouldn't even be considered an adult. Scientific studies have shown that even 18 year old's brains are still developing and don't have certain decision-making capabilities.

I think the social apathy is a major piece of it too. Think about it. People are immune to car alarms, they don't want to get involved in disputes, they look the other way when something happens, waiting for the one 'hero' to step in so they don't have to be responsible for something if it goes wrong. Sad. Just sad.

Gypsy

What a terrible story. It sounds like a combination of apathy, denial, and feeling invincable. At that age, you don't think anything can happen to you. You think, oh, she's just fucked up. She'll be ok. She'll sleep it off. It's stupid and irresponsible and tragic.

Barry

Great post. My kids are 10 and 6 and a ways from dealing with that, but I'd like to thing I'm raising them in such a way they'll have more sense not only to call 911 - not only not to involve themselves with friends who get that blasted - but also to not get involved in drugs or alcohol themselves. I plan to stress how stupid and dangerous both are as they get older to the point where they wouldn't any more consciously drink a beer before they're 21 than drink Drano.

Tammy~Kentucky Gal

As I was reading this I thought of the example Hollywood puts forward too (Mel Gibson as an example) he is an adult but other adults let him drive!!
this in no way absolves parents because they are responsible the most!!!
For some reason kids seem to be getting younger and more irresponsible when 27 years ago 18 was considered an adult age...seemed like the kids of that era acted older and took on more responsibilites.
I was expected to make my own way at 18...kids today seem so lost as to how to go about that.
A different era indeed!!
~~~
Great Post!

Nils

Great post, and I could hear the echoes of every scared parent in every word.

My kids survived their teenage years, but any parent of teenagers knows how it feels to lay in bed and watch the clock tick past the time we all agreed she'd be home, dammit, and where is she, that kid is gonna get such a blast ... and then they get home and they're safe and they DO get the blast, but they don't realize it's not about anger or control, but about how helpless we feel sitting and watching the clock and having our imaginations run wild.

And what we hope, as parents, is that our kids will run with a crowd of good kids and make smart decisions. But we don't pick their friends - they do - and what parent hasn't looked at some of the kids that our teenagers drag home and thought "Oh ... THIS one is nothing but trouble."?

When something like this news story happens, it just solidifies our belief that we can't trust anyone to care about our kids' safety and well-being the way we do. A lot of the young people in this story made very bad decisions, but that's what young people do if they're not guided well.

You can't drive the car for your kids. All you can do is give them the best driver's lessons you can, and don't feel bad if your foot gets a bit twitchy by times and you feel you have to stomp on the brake and take the wheel.

Oh, and as they go through teenagerhood? EVERYBODY wears a seatbelt. (g)

Janet

I don't have kids. But I see how some of them behave and how some parents are raising children now. Some of these kids're completely protected from harm and never have to do much, as their parents spoil them silly.

Here's the result of that.

Discipline your kids. Teach them. Don't leave it up to someone else, as that someone else don't care, ultimately. But then...apparently, neither do some of the parents.

What a sad story. How much do you want to bet those same girls were out the next weekend doing the exact same thing?

kenju

It shows the decline and fall of the current empire.

Terri

Very, very, well done, Laura and on SUCH an important subject.
It's a horrific story but unfortunately it happens more that we probably know. I don't have any answers as to "why"....but I DO know that we need more parents like YOU, who are willing to speak up and speak out on this subject. There's no doubt that if your girls are faced with a situation like this some day, they will be the one's to dial 911.

FloridaCracker

I read this with my 18 year old daughter lounging on the couch, watching Animal Planet, and very excited about her first day of college tomorrow.
You did an excellent job taking the associates to task. They failed this girl.

But, so did her parents.
This death was set in motion years before when Sarah was little.
It's parents who set the strong foundation that helps a kid make the right choice.

Probably a harsh unpopular view, but I see the product of poor parenting each and every day and it's not easy to watch a kid self destruct while parents enable them by their neglect.
I'm sick of weak,helpless parents and in awe of involved, strong parents.

There's a reason why kids go wrong.
There's a reason why kids go right.

It's us.

Deana

I can only say that I thank the good Lord every single day that he got me through those wilder years. I've had alchohol poisoning, I've had those nights. Oh what the young can't see. I will worry myself to death over my nephews and niece.
I think people forget that you can DIE from a big night out! We had a kid die each year at the fall sememsters beginning at our college or the one next door. All from taking shots all night.
I'd hope we'd really push knowledge about drinking and mixing...esp. on college campuses.

KatherineK

Wow, I hadn't heard about that - too sad. Makes a great point about what we're NOT teaching our children. It's never their fault, it's always someone else's problem, nothing bad will ever happen to you, etc. I really hope people learn something from Sarah's unnecessary death. Too bad they can't be prosecuted.

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